Ok, I am really distraught now. The wife just called and came clean. She is having an affair and has slept with 3 other men besides this one. I said why are you telling me this? She said I want to come home when my lease is up if you'll still have me. We talked for a while and I told her if she wanted to come home then it would have to be tonight not when her lease was up. She told me she didn't know if she could face me and if I suspected. I told her I had. We talked for a long time. I honestly don't know if I'm going to be able to get past this. We'll see. She said she loves this guy. Unreal. He's married too. I feel like puking. I told her no more contact with this guy. She agreed. I said no phone calls, no lunches, nothing. She agreed. She called back later and told me she called him and told him it was over. I told her we have to have mutual transparancy on everything from now on. She said ok. She said how can you ever look at me again. I told her I loved her and I would get past this but that it would take some time.

I find myself questioning what I said. Did I lie? I hope that I can really forgive her. I can't stop shaking. Somebody please help me.


M-41
ex-W-40
Together--17 years
SS-20
D-14
Bomb--2 Feb 09
WAW--6 Feb 09
Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!!
ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!!
Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!