Cinco.. im not sure if we are working on it..we are still so early into it..we are just able to talk for about 15 minutes at a time about it... and he is so hung up on the "slap in the face aspect of it" that he cant see anything else about it.. We had a pretty frank discussion today.. i said that part of me was not sorry for doing it.. b/c i realized things about myself that i had thoughg long gone.. he didnt like that.. But i did get him to admit that he has not been happy either.. and that he has just been biting his tongue b/c he thought that is just what you do..i think it bothered hiim to admit this b/c its no longer just me not being happy.. This is a long road i know... just so scary when i dont feel anymore than i do about it.. TX HJR
