Sex Starved Marriage Coaching (from Dotty)

[mamanpc]

Hello HJR and Rob,
I agree with Rob's post, i thought that it was great and certainly 'spoke' to me, as i was in a similar situation to the one Rob responded too (see my thread in my signature).

i have since quit but he feels i have had an affair.. which i disagree,

HJR, have you read any of Michelle's books? she explains in detail that what you did is indeed THE SAME THING as having an affair in that it damages the R and destroys trust just like an affair does.
It's great that you were able to have that frank, open discussion with your H about your needs, just like Rob recommended. And if he's willing to try to satisfy you, but 'just can't', perhaps the 2 of you can see a sex therapist (not necessarily together at first, but the same one separately and then together, for ex?)
best of luck to you, HJR, i know that i still have a LOT of work ahead to rebuild wiht my H so that we don't have an SSM anymore.