Someone suggested I post my story here...

[Cinco]

Hi HJR,

Please don't beat yourself up too much over the emotional affairs. When you are so empty inside from lack of attention it IS so easy for just about anything to fill that void. Believe me I know, I had those addictive behaviors that ended up in physical affairs. Never intending to hurt my wife but grasping at something, anything to fill the emptiness that I felt. I wish I had just found a way to make my wife understand that I needed her instead of what I did. I am communicating my needs to her now.

The important thing is that you two are working on finding your connection again. You are working on it together now. The attention that you both want and need will be coming from each other, as it should be. Just keep letting him know that you need him.

You have a lot of great people here who will support you as you repair your marriage.

Cinco