Holding onto Hope

[In Limbo]

Sandi,
In response to your earlier post - thank you. The whole calling on his way over to tell me he's stopping off to have a drink first is so indicative of our relationship. After the way this weekend has gone, I'm really doing a lot of thinking. I think part of the problem is that while we're separated, we're not really. He leaves on Monday morning and comes home Friday night. He does whatever he wants during the week and is with me and the kids every weekend - best of both worlds. I'm beginning to resent that because it gives him a LOT of time to GAL while I'm taking care of all of the responsibilities. I agreed to it because I didn't want him to leave to begin with. But maybe that's a mistake. Maybe if he's really trying to figure out if he wants me or not we should have a more traditional separation and he should completely move out. I am so confused today because I want a marriage that works, I don't want things the way they are. So I guess the conclusion I've come to is that you're right - to have any chance of getting there I will have to do what seems the opposite and let go. Should I suggest he move out completely? Should I see how next weekend goes before deciding? I have not set goals other than weight loss goals, which I am meeting so far (go me!). I need to set others. I'm really bad about goals - not good on follow through. Maybe if I set them and post them I'll be more accountable. Anyway, sorry for the boo-hoo posta a few minutes ago, I mainly just needed to vent. I've got to overcome being so afraid of making him mad and worry more about myself and the boys.
Hope you've had a good weekend. Thanks again for all you put into your posts for so many of us - you're a blessing!