If I approach her with this strategy I know she will immediately go on the defensive. I would also state the other observations and then ask her what do you have to say about these observations? I am trying to go dim, negate all negativity with my wife so that we can at least communicate without conflict. By me comfronting her it will drive the walls up again and I am back to square one.
On one of Michelle's successful posters the H knew of an affair but chose to accept it, be as much a friend as he could be and hope the affair would die out and he could the move onto the second phase of reconcilliation. I desperately want to reconcile but all the time my wife does not admit to a possible affair makes me feel like rubbish.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
