Quoting shinybear: Folks, another idea kept floating around in my mind as I lay in bed, unsleeping until the early hours of the morning.
I have a life philosophy that may sound whacked to other people, but here goes.
I believe in an afterlife. I don't know what it looks like, but I believe that there IS a life review. I believe that WE stand in judgement on ourselves.
I believe that we go through our past experiences, good and bad and relive them from the POV's of the people we've helped AND the people we've hurt.
Could there be a worse hell for someone like Hitler than to live through the agony, grief and horror he inflicted on millions of people?
I THINK that part of our life journey is to acknowledge and atone for our part in hurting others, and that if we don't do it here, we'll just have to do it on the other side.
Thus PART of my wanting CJ to "get it" about these incidents is to help him work through it NOW vs Later. Same for me and the miriad of ways I've hurt him. I'd rather atone and make up for it NOW!
Probably not making much sense, but what the heck!
Shiny
ahem! I hear ya with this stuff shiny, I really do and I have gotten stuck with it myself..but then I stop and realize that it's not my responsibility to make sure anyone gets all their ducks in a row but unless of course that person is me. Have I gotten it? Will I stand judgement..will I pass or fail...etc...our h's and others will "get it" or not in their own time...all we can do is make sure that we "get it" perhaps lead by example???
