Oops!!.......I think I've dropped the rope!!

[glamgirl]

Sorry SC that you are going through this. I know that what I post you probably won't want to hear, but based on your interactions via e-mail with your h, it seems you are angry and bitter.

I am sure your h feels like you backed him into a corner and now he needs to come out fighting, hence closing the joint account. In his mind you just reinforce why he wanted out of the M. It just seals the deal.

What would be best, is that you back off from the situation and let it go. Your h is with someone else right now (I think) and you are not going to be able to change that. In his mind the M is done and he sees NO reason why he shouldn't be with somebody.

You will probably feel much better if you distance yourself from your h and put this all on a shelf for now. It seems you push your h for answers and then you either don't like what you hear or your h comes off as if he doesn't care or isn't following his word. No suprise! You are expecting too much from him.

Step back, leave him be, and stop having contact with him. Did any of above really need to be resolved today. Don't count on him, as in the moving. SC your h is NOT there for you NOW!

I do understand where you are at and realize how difficult this is, but you DO have a choice to change you and your perspective.

HUGS!