It's obvious you're anger is directed at your wife. Your responses to her is your passive aggressive way of participating in a pissing contest with her. Does it make you feel better when you do it? I don't believe it does.
I'm not saying it's easy. I went through the same crap from my W. There were so many things I wanted to yell at her. I wouldn't let myself stoop to her level. I was going to be the better person.
Your thread title says you are in the acceptance phase. I believe that is one or two phases past the anger phase. Are you really accepting the situation, or are you still stuck at anger?
We all understand that you are in a lot of pain. You've endured much more than a lot of folks would be willing to deal with. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Just take a moment to think about your actions before you do them. Take a deep breath, then take another one, and another one. Then think again...then act.
Most of all, think of how you would want your children to act when they are adults in a difficult situation. They will remember these days. Be their role model.
PoohBear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
