Wow, this is a really interesting turn on my thread...
Hmmmm, I guess for me I feel like I really don't mind that he said he doesn't know why he left. For me the fact that he has spent time thinking about it is the important thing. I know that I have done things in the past and afterwards thought 'wth did I do that??' and still don't understand to this day, once maybe on a par with the seriousness of h leaving so I do understand.
For me I feel the past is past and I am more focused on the present. For me, the breakthrough is that we both expressed to each other a need to move forward in a positive direction. I need no other explanation from him really, if he wants to discuss it in the future of course we will though. Those are my thoughts really.
I just wanted to pick up on some things you guys said that I have been thinking about the past few days.
(((Ali))) I read that too about ow. I guess my feelings are that it is something I cannot control, I can only control me and I am aiming for the greener grass. I also understand what Jody says about them not coming back. When h expressed that, I looked him square in the face and said 'it's ok, I understand' and it was like we had got that out in the open and I'm hoping it lifted the cloud of guilt. I suppose I'll just have to wait and see.
(((Lisa))) When you post to me before meetings it always renews my confidence, thank you!!!! It is the solicitor papers for the house not D papers. I do get your drift. I think h was feeling suffocated and trapped, whether by me or something else I don't know. I suppose that is why I am working so hard on the 180s as I can only control me.
(((Lost))) Your last paragraph was so inspirational. Thank you sooooo much for writing that. It is something I will remind myself of a lot.
(((Ms M))) I agree totally on the timing issue. Jody once said to me 'wait until you will be heard' and I am totally taking that on board. Even though it requires patience I am not sure I have!
(((ITH))) thank you for stopping by. Your post was so interesting. Thank you so much for telling me of your experience of it, I really appreciate it. I will totally take what you said on board.
My weekend has been fun so far. Friday night a friend came round and we had pizza and wine. She agreed to take my sofa when I move which is great as I didn't have a clue what to do with it. It is way too big and heavy!
Then yesterday I went shopping with my Mum and bought a top that is electric blue and shows off my shoulders. I'm teaming that with black trousers and a chunky belt and heals so hopefully will look hot tomorrow Today I am chilling.
So far I am not feeling anxious about tomorrow. Let's hope it stays that way
