craig54 divorced but still love my wife

[craig54]

COG,

What a blessing to hear from you. It was your original suggestion about divorce care that got me involved. I attended two sessions over the last 18 months. Truly a blessing. I made some friends during the sessions too.The Lord is beyond what I can describe. I look back at my journey over the last 18months and can smile.Sure it has been painful.But I would not trade it for all the tea in china.
The pain has been worth it. I am not the same man I was when I came here in oct.2007. I appreciate all the tought encouragement that you gave me at the time.I understand what you are saying about the fear and sadness. I am definitely sad about where our marriage ended up. But I have not changed the way I treat her, with love and respect. I know she is lost, and rest assured,I cannot treat her dissrespect or with anger, I feel terrible for her. I pray for her daily, for her soul, her protection, and I know with all my heart that God has protected her.

I am under no illusion that I will be healed anytime soon. The pain is still too deep. My life now has Jesus centered in my heart , where he belongs.

COG, I thank you for coming by to help, you have no idea how much I appreciate it. This place is my refuge, unless you have gone through this fire you cannot fathom what to say to someone.

Once again , thank you

[fb2]

Hi Craig, That website also let's you subscribe to daily e-mails - one a day for 365 days and each e-mail has a snippet of something you need on your journey and a book suggestion. I found these e-mails much more useful than the meetings which I didn't have time for anyway.

[craig54]

Fb, I also have the emails, and yes they are helpful.I believe the interaction at the meetings were beneficial.It is one thing to interact on here, it is another to be face to face with people who are really hurting.

[craig54]

I could be wrong, but it seems like more men come home after their MLC than women, any comments one way or the other.

[dl443322]

Craig, you are a good person to be able to have such compassion for your xw. I feel the same way about my h, most of the time, LOL!

I pray that all of our spouses find their way. That they reconnect with their souls and walk home.

[craig54]

Someday when and if my wife ever comes out of this, she will be shocked at some of the things she said and did.She is God's hands, so I don't worry.At least too much.!!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

You might be shocked at how much she doesn't remember...and sometimes THAT is a good thing. Intentional forgetfulness or not. I recall once reminder her of something she said to me and she looked horrified and couldn't believe it. She thought I was lying, I asked her when do I lie, and to what purpose, I am not saying this to get into a fight or screw up a good evening..she ended up believing me, but after that I saw no profit in bringing up anything she had said while deep in her MLC.

[craig54]

I will keep that in my memory banks. Thanks Jack.

[craig54]

Post divorce comment, this will be the last time I write anything concerning my ex-wife.

I just got off the phone with her mother,my ex mother in law. We had a comfortable conversation. She is usually the one who brings up her daughters behavior.I usually just listen, and respond only when asked.

She is the one who has taken the brunt of my ex wifes anger over the last 19months.So she usually has a lot to say. She told me my exwife considers me her best friend and the only one who gets her.I truly was flabbergasted at that statement.She is so lost, and I wish she would reach out to someone who can help her.I pray for her daily, actually all day.I really hate to see her like this.

[craig54]

I am certainly grateful for having gone through the divorce care program , it has prepared me for all the ups and downs of being divorced.It is so easy to get bushwhacked by emotions , or just something as simple as looking at a photograph of my ex-wife.The Lord is preparing me for something, I just don't know what.