What ever happened to Laughing......

[Between Tears]

Snodderly,

It is all so damned textbook, isn't it? Everything that I've experienced, it's written in black and white all over the Internet. If you and I can see this, why is it so difficult for others to see?

My new attorney has seen traces of Dick's attorney's hand in much of what we have seen coming from the authorities in town. Dick's attorney is on the list of most corrupt and underhanded attorneys in Kansas. Dick pays her well, and as she once confessed in the hall, he is her favorite client, then she whispered, and my only client who is paid in full. I can't understand how money would drive a person to go as far as she has gone though. I wonder if she is blinded by his manipulation and ability to play the poor victim, or does she see through him, but is driven by success.... Only God knows for sure.

As for me moving. Can't, not yet. Although, against my civil rights, I am court ordered to live within the school's district boundaries. My attorney is angry this order was given, and she vows to have it removed asap. For now we are working on freeing the children from being forced to move to California in May. This order was given under my old attorney, and it will take time to undo all the damage that has been done. There is a pile of BS from the years of having my rights violated/ignored by my previous attorneys.

It is such a mess.... as I am so tired. There are people who see that I've been kicked around by the legal system, and are working on my behalf. Again, it's all in time, and unfortunately, not on my time table.

Thanks for caring so much.... If I was somewhere other than in Red Neck country, there would be places like a shelter to contact. Where we are divorced, he lives in California, my physical health is not in imminent danger... there is no place, I mean no place for me to go. I'm not going to leave my children behind just to find solace.... I will remain near by until they are free too.

[Between Tears]

Here we go again, more BS from Mr. Dick....

As I was driving S to his current residence, after our over night visit, my phone rings. Since I am driving, I let the call go, yet hear the tone for a message being left. Look down at the phone, don't recognize the number.

When I get back home, I decide to listen to the vm... it's Dick, and no, I don't even have his number listed in my cell phone... this is what I call detachment.

"You know the name. You've got the number. The question is, why are you claiming D on your taxes. The IRS just turned down my e-file because YOU claimed her!" I want an explanation..... please!"

No, no, I didn't return his call... just laughed. Sorry fool. He obviously e-filed his taxes yesterday and received his denial today... now he is pissed, and of course it's my fault.

First of all, he's been claiming both children all along. The divorce papers state in 2004, he could claim both children, but every year after, we each would be allowed to claim one child. It also states he receives this deduction ONLY if his child support is current.... and of course he still owes me a couple of thousand dollars in back support. Third, this man is absolutely nuts... since mid November he won residential custody, but left both children in the care of two separate families, and hasn't paid any support, yet still expects the right to claim them on his taxes.... It just makes me sick to see how self indulgent, self motivated, self important this man believes he is, he is delusional!

Now, with the way things go, this will be taken up in court, and I will be held responsible for his suffering. I will probably have to pay him back the amount of tax he had to pay because he didn't receive his desired deductions. All because they won't go back to the divorce decree and examine what was written. Now, this has been going on since he began to take me back to court. Dick refuses to acknowledge anything in the original decree, because he has said "It's not what I agreed to." Yet, his own signature is on the last page, just as mine is.

I will call my attorney office this morning, let them know what will be coming down the line next. Just maybe, with my new attorney, I can stop this ridiculous cycle. Keep your fingers crossed!

Have a great day!

[job]

Call your attorney first thing this morning. If they don't have a copy of your divorce decree, make a point of taking a copy to them along with a copy of your tax return and any other paperwork that shows your xh is delinquent w/payments.

It's time for your situation to take a turn for the better. I sincerely do hope that this attorney will do battle and win a few for you.

Good luck!

[Between Tears]

Hi Snodderly,

I did call the Attorney this morning.... Her response "You filed according to the letter of this agreement, and since he owes you back child support, he doesn't have a right to claim either child as a dependent. Let them bring it on!"

She's confident, as she has also finished reading Dick's psychological, says she knows exactly how move forward in this next hearing. She told me to start looking for things to start changing and for the better.

I hope she is right... she also won two very difficult custody cases this week, one against the state. She is talented, smart, and I believe if anybody was to change this situation, she will be the one to do it.

Hope you have a great weekend... Me, I ready to start my work week, Friday night through Tuesday night. Monday on Friday is a bit rough.

[mermaid]

Lauging,
I just logged on for the first time in a long time. I am so sorry to hear about the latest developments but somehow not surprised when it comes to Dick and what he has done to you and the children. I will keep you and your children in my prayers.

[Between Tears]

Hi Mermaid,

How are you? I'm honored your first time back in a long time, and here you are, posting to me.

Yes, Dick won't let up, it's just the nature of the beast. He's just a miserable man, and needs to punish us because he's unhappy.

I hope you have better news? How are the girls? I bet the are growing up, maybe a bit to fast too!

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers, it is so good to hear from you.

[mermaid]

Hi Laughing,

I had been thinking about you a lot lately actually. I wish that everything was better for you. You are an amazing woman. I am doing well and so are my girls. I am a little tired, cranky and stressed because of final exams and some other minor issues so my former h "immune system" is a little down. So much so that I almost sent ow (or whatever I should call her now) a nasty email but I deleted it. Anyway I will keep on praying for you. I still am stunned at how completely upside down things are for you.

[Creed]

Laughing

I'm glad your new lawyer sounds as aggressise and decisive as she does!!! I'll be praying for you and your family.

Mermaid

My eldest son and his wife were just in Vancouver for about a week for a convention. He'd been there before. They really enjoyed the area.

[mermaid]

Hi Creed,
I am glad your son and his wife enjoyed Vancouver. I am glad we have gotten so much bad press lately. We have a had a lot of gang violence and we also have a huge homeless problem. The only good thing is now it will all have to be addressed before the Olympics. Anyway how are you?

[Between Tears]

Okay, weird day....

I find that Dick intentionally set S up for his warrant... the speeding ticket S received while living with his Father in California. Oh ya, Dick knew S was coming back to KS, and while S in KS, but before the custody papers were through the KS court... Dick made an appearance in the court in Cali, stated S was on a court order visitation, which he was given a continuance for when Dick said S was going to return.

Now, S had accomplished ALL of the court items which the Judge gave him to "work off" his fines, wrote the essay, went to the driving school prior to leaving Cali, and Dick had all his paperwork at the time of the appearance.

Now, please forgive me, for I've been told by the court system here, that I'm a miserable parent, but of course the court has only listened to Dick and his attorney.... anyway, had I been in Dick's shoes, knowing S wanted to go back to KS, I would have presented this information to the court, along with all that he had accomplished, in order to prevent any further legal harm.

Of course, Dick had always said S's essay was not good enough, so I can understand why he wouldn't present it..... however, I felt if the kid wrote it, present it, as it would be up to the Judge to determine if it was good enough, or not, and let the child know.

Am I wrong? I realize I do try to over protect my children, probably do too much for them, but I feel they've been surviving in rough waters for so long, that a helping hand here and there isn't always a bad thing.... again, I could be wrong here too.

I feel Dick was just trying to load his hand, if you will, thinking the Judge here would return S to California to finish up the ticket ordeal.... however, S completed everything as ordered, except for an appearance that he nor I knew about. Yes, all the paperwork from the courts went to Dick.... Because S didn't appear, there is a warrant out for him, along with another $150 fine.

I feel if Dick would or could appear for a continuance, he could definitely appear to provide the work S had done with the explanation of why S wasn't there in person.

The other weird thing that happened today, I was asked if I was a (last name) that a person once knew... I responded "Naw, it's my children's last name. However, if you (the person) knew the family that was once on this street, then moved to that street, then it would be my children's family."

The person said "Yes, I was once a neighbor of the family." I told him that it's been a while since I've heard from most of the family, but gave him a general breakdown of where the family was as of 2006. He was surprised to hear Dick's sister passed, but also began to talk about the family as they grew up. Talked about how Dick's father was very hard on the family, especially the boys, and of course Dick's Mother he was the hardest on. I thought... geez, guess the apple didn't fall far from the tree.

Although interesting to hear, it also confirmed many of the thoughts I have had for a long time. But why now? Why am I given this information now? Sure, it softened my heart with more understanding, however, it doesn't change the battle I have going on in the courts. Knowing what I know won't further help me in our plight.... a better understanding of what Dick went through and why he is who he is, isn't going to help me give back the future my children had dreamed of... Oh well, the answers will come in their own time....