Hey Shiny,

first off, girlfriend, I'm sorry that you're not feeling well. Seems like that must have a tremendous impact on EVERYTHING!

Can I turn on my "mother mode" for a second? (This would be exactly the kind of thing that my h would HATE)....I'm concerned that your sleep patterns and your eating patterns (or shall I say...your non-eating patterns for a long period of time) may be making your tiredness/health even worse. Of course you know what's best for you...just seems that you keep a fairly erratic schedule of eating and sleeping. Maybe regulating that somewhat would at least help with the exhaustion?

Allrighty...since you and CJ have entered a NEW phase where you are both MUCH busier than before...is it time for a logical "this is what you'll do, this is what I'll do, and this is what we'll let slide" discussion? Maybe that could circumvent some of the BRAIN ADD-ONs I saw in your post ... your "SHOULDs" when talking about CJ doing stuff around the house and his "you're not supporting me" when you raised an issue. Why not get the practical stuff off the table if that kind of approach would work for you?

Also, how about putting some time limits around how long you are willing to wait for things...like, if he says he'll cook dinner at 7:30 and 8pm rolls around, let him know unjudgementally that you're going to put another plan in place?

It may be that you guys won't be able to keep up your schedules and do all the same stuff you used to...why not figure out what you're ok with?

Let's see...other stuff...sounds like a lack of "shiny alone" time may also be clouding some of the issues...what can you do to get more of that?

Sending you health thoughts and a well-cooked, on time meal.

Sage

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