Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

Hi TAL and Mattie,
Thanks for stopping by.

Mattie, I'm not sure what will happen with graduation. Uggghhh... It stinks, doesn't it?

Well, today we had a planning meeting for next week's prom dinner. One of the dad's is in charge of the grilling of steaks and chicken. The rest there were his wife and 3 other moms. The dad was talking about his plans. He said, "I've got a couple of dads I want to help me prior to the dinner and then some for clean up. He looked at me and said, "I have your H to help cook. I said, I don't want him here. He said, "He can't make it?" I said, "I just don't want him here." I did not say anything else about it. I'm sure he knows what is going on. His wife and I are friends, not close, but friends. My really good friend sitting across from me looked at me and I told her, "I'm tired of pretending we are one happy family. He doesn't take DD out to dinner otherwise, why let him put on a show?" I didn't say it loud enough for everyone else to hear. She said, "I don't blame you, and I'm proud of you."

I do not plan on calling H and telling him anything, but if he calls and asks for a time, "I will simply tell him it's taken care of." Yes, I know this may sound a little selfish to some of you, but my H doesn't spend any one-on-one time with DD. Yes, he willing gives her money, but as far as quality father/daughter time, it does not exist.

I've learned some more of his deceptions recently and I am tired of the lies. I'm setting my boundaries, I do not wish to be around him. The kids will eat early in different clothes other than their prom clothes. Afterwards they will all go home to change into prom attire and then leave for prom. If H wants to come to the house and see her dressed before she leaves for the prom, that is fine, but I do not wish to spend 2 or 3 hours at a dinner with him.

I will not tell him he can't attend, because really that isn't my place, but I will certainly not encourage it. I hope he gets the hint!