Oh, I saw you mention your sons earlier. It seems like a good idea to just have something like that on hand, just because these things can get so out of control, so Im glad to hear that you have already thought of it. Always ready! Like a freaking boyscout.

As far as your A is concerned, you either forgive someone or dont. You dont go having a revenge A a few years down the road. So, I dont think thats whats going on at all. And I dont think that you are out for revenge either.

I hate how these people behave in the throes of their A's! Your transcript earlier with your W's responses consisting of grunts and I dont knows reminded me soooo much of my own conversations with my H. I couldnt get much more than that out of him for months.

I wonder if they cant come up with an answer because they cant completely reconcile their own behavior... "Why do you feel like you need to look outside our M?" the response "I dont know", or the shrug actually means, I have no idea why Im doing this, and on a deeper level, my own behavior is disgusting me, I cant understand why I feel like I have to go against my own beliefs and principles, so I cant answer your question.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...