Treese please dont be like me. I sometimes obsess about my xh. I am already divorced but its still the same to me. He did it so fast, sometimes I actually still feel married. I am going on 7 months of thinking and praying daily for him. Thats all we can do. You are still married and we are already divorced but our situations are similiar. My xh puts his new gf in frot of us all the time. Dont be like me and ruin the communication between you two. I lost the trust with my xh. He was answering my calls, but about a month ago, he stopped doing that and I stopped calling. I am hoping one day we can be friends again. He does however still contact his son and they are going fishing next week. My son TOO sees NO WRONG in his dad. His dad has always been is HERO. My son is 18. I think he just hides his true feelings inside. He knows what his dad did, but everything revolves around his dad, everybody's job is too do whatever dad wants and see that dad is happy. I dont understand my son sometimes but I just let him be, if we try to explain, they will just end up mad at us. I dont know about you, but I honestly couldnt handle that right now. I have lost too much already. Sorry the reply is so long, but I just want you to know you are not alone. BELIEVE ME, go read my thread, I struggle EVERYDAY, but honestly it is getting soo much better. I still wonder and think alot about him and ow, and I am working on that too. Please try not to think about how much fun he is having, because really we think we know them, but we dont, they are not the same people we had in our lives. Honestly would we want to be in their position? It took me a long time to actually see that in NO WAY do I want to be him. Like YR said, we dont want them back right now....no way we could live with them. I will tell you something that has helped me lately and it may work for you. I thought it would NEVER work for me. but when I start to think about my xh, I think, what would I be doing right now if my xh had passed away. I know this sounds horrible, but in a way, its like he has. I think to myself, I would have to suck it up and go on. So it does help. Try it. I am probably in no condition to give advice but I know how you feel.
YR, do you think because I am divorced my situation is different from Treese. I dont feel like it is. Divorce is just paperwork to me. I think our h's our in the same place. Mine just took a bigger leap than hers.
