He was rude the last time too and gave me a really hard time. I don't understand why he acts like that. It's so not fair to the kids to go from having him home everyday and being a constant presence in his life to seeing him only on the weekends. I know it's a common theme, but I don't understand what he's thinking. How can he think that this isn't affecting them when he was wounded to the core when his parents divorced and he was 33?
Should I talk to him about this and at least get an explaination? Is this something that's common with the WAS?
They don't have a problem being mean and rude. You can't understand why he acts like that...so don't try! He doesn't care right now. You can't understand what he's thinking...so don't try! He doesn't care if it's affecting them right now! Yeah...it's typical!
They go through a 'selfish' phase, and there is NOTHING that you can say or do that will change their mind. So don't try. They are 'different people' right now...they are not the same people that we fell in love with and married. It's a hard thing...hard to understand the situation, and even harder to do the necessary things we MUST do!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
