your list is very good, stick to it. Do not underestimate the value and importance of listening and validating! For me this was definitely one of the keys. Both in saving my M my first time through here, and in our continued happyness after. Forgetting this is a part of what has brought me back.
I know that the limbo in between seems like forever, but this is a long, slow process. Give yourself time to strengthen and keep focusing on yourself for now. If H comes around, then you can focus on him.
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