Puppy, I'm in the same city as you and recently went thru my own divorce. I feel for you, I really do. I feel like I tried everything I could to save my marriage but I ended up being the one who filed. My ex wife also has mental issues(diagnosed Bipolar but I see more symptons of Borderline myself) that made our marriage very difficult. I wasted alot of time trying to fix her only to realize you cant fix someone who doesnt wish to be fixed.
Have you taken the required class for divorcing parents yet? I started the process in November and it was almost 6 months before the divorce was final. It was uncontested and me and my ex used a paralegal to help us fill out all the forms we needed. We had each retained lawyers but decided that if we could agree on most things the thousands and thousands of dollars that would be saved could help us each provide a nicer place for our daughter. Our incomes are similar so no alimony or child support was needed since we are splitting time about 50/50.
I dont suggest divorce for anyone when kids are involved but one half of the couple can only do so much. I wont sugarcoat it, it can be lonely on the days I dont have my daughter. But being in the marriage I was in was lonely everyday! My daughter seems to be doing very well since we co-parent much better than co-spouse'd.
