Quote: I’ve been pondering the issue of forgiveness. I know that it is not an “all at once” experience for me. Something Dr. Phil says over and over on his shows about Infidelity, and that is that it is very hard to forgive and move on until the hurt partner KNOWS that their spouse GETS what they put you through.
I, many times, feel like my W doesn't "really" get it...although she's expressed remorse over what she's done. You know, as yucky (or not) as this may sound, I think when our Ses are finally in a place where they care for us like they used to, they will, at some moment, ponder what it would be like to have US do the same to them. I think, in this moment, they will understand. Until then...well, it's for us to be patient I think.
Also, I do KNOW for a fact that my W won't bring up her regretfulness because she doesn't want to put me through the muck once again...and she doesn't like to revisit the past, as it makes her realize her own failability. Avoidance or self-preservation?
Anyway, my .02. And I'm sure he regrets what he did, Shiny...I'm sure he does...
