Quote: Well, LL I suppose a person can never know EXACTLY what another went through, but there are degrees of "getting it".
I kinda get the feeling I'm pushing some of the wrong buttons with you shiny.
Quote: I suppose when he brought up what a nightmare it would be for the TWO of us to pack up and sell this house, it said to me that he really didn't realize/remember that he ALMOST left me alone, sick, finacially strapped, with the whole bloody mess!
or maybe it was a small way of recognizing what a nightmare you faced in having to think that it might come to that?
Quote: I sometimes think that he was so fogged out then that he did things he doesn't even remember...for example when I asked why he was so cruel about his STD results (he stormed in an threw the negative report down in front of me saying, in a nasty tone, here you can put that with your evidence)...he denies having done any such thing!!!
my h too doesn't recall saying lot's and lot's of hurtful things...doesn't recall a whole lot of stuff...does it mean they're blind? I would like to think it means they are trying to focus on the positive and for whatever reason (not to excuse themselves) have forgotten such things. I've read somewhere before (probably john grey stuff) that us womenfolk have this tendancy to bring up old stuff into new discussions and the men just don't seem to do that...it throws them...if enough time has passed from one event to the next the previous is forgotten and out of bounds. would that be the case with his crappy attitude with the std report incident?
