Based on everything I gathered, DBing is for yourself. At the end of the day you have to know you did everything in your power to save your marriage, and to better yourself.
Distancing/GAL - you do these things for you. Because no matter how things turn out these are things you need to learn anyway.
Not all marriages can be saved. In fact - not all marriages should be saved.
But whatever path you fall on - you need to have your head held high. I think Puppy has no reason whatsoever to let his head hang low - because he put up with more than most would in order to give his marriage a chance. But in the end it takes two, and as much as we can entice our spouses back, they have the freedom to choose to work on the marriage or not. We can't try to save them from that choice. It is something they have to choose for themselves.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
