LL, I'm not so sure that it would be fruitless. I mean when I GOT what my behaviours had done to CJ over the years I was horrified! I FELT his pain, the sense of belittlement, dismissal, I SAW things from his side and spoke the words FOR him. do you think he doesnt' get it? or just hasn't spoken your words for you? THAT is true empathy. CJ is a very sensitive person. He was walking around in a daze in those days, many of the things I have a hard time forgiving are like this one.
It MIGHT help me let go if I felt he KNEW what that was like for me. again I'll say..do you think it possible for one to truly KNOW what it is like until they themselves are put in that position? He told me once that he could not process all of the pain he brought into our M all at once as it would overwhelm him (this was early in MC). a very wise statement!
Still not doing anything with this notion...just kicking it around. by kicking it around you certainly are doing something with it.
