LL, I'm not so sure that it would be fruitless. I mean when I GOT what my behaviours had done to CJ over the years I was horrified! I FELT his pain, the sense of belittlement, dismissal, I SAW things from his side and spoke the words FOR him.
THAT is true empathy. CJ is a very sensitive person. He was walking around in a daze in those days, many of the things I have a hard time forgiving are like this one.
It MIGHT help me let go if I felt he KNEW what that was like for me. He told me once that he could not process all of the pain he brought into our M all at once as it would overwhelm him (this was early in MC).
Still not doing anything with this notion...just kicking it around.
