(If you remember "Friends", picture that being said in a 'Chandler Bing' way... )
So Dan mentioned he would take Nathan to the movie. I told him he was welcome to take Sydney, too. He was Mr. Indecisive as usual, texting me a few times re. which movie theater did I think, what time was the movie, etc etc.
I told him it was on in our town at 8:00 (it is a 100 yr old movie theater, rarely shows movies anymore) or it was on in the Omaha metro and I could stay up there after karate to meet him with the kids. Finally he texted back that he would go to the hometown place at 8:00.
He called me on the way back from karate (6:30) to see where I was. He asked if I thought Sydney could stay awake for the movie at 8:00. I said sure, it would be over at 9:30 and she is often--unfortunately!--up that late. He said he would be at the house soon.
I no more than walk in my door and the phone rings. I figure it is him. Nope, it is FIL. MIL has locked keys in car up in the city (they are out w/friends) and he needs me to get the spare set from their house and bring it to him. Says he knows Dan is taking Nathan to movie so Sydney and I can come help them.
I tell him Sydney is going to movie, too, but I can help out. (I don't want to but they help me a lot so I know I should.)
Then Dan calls and says he has already stopped by FIL house and gotten spare keys. He will pick up kids, take the keys up to FIL and then movie. I say it is 7:15 no way can you get back to our town by 8. He says I will go to a movie uptown please look up a movie time up there.
I told him I was fine with taking the keys, he should take the kids in town like he said he would. He said "You don't have to be the martyr. It isn't your job to help my parents. I will do it." (Part of our issues from the past has been my martyring myself and then pointing it out later...)
I said, "I was happy to do it, but that is fine."
So he came and got the kids and was all pissy. I told him he was being rude to me for no reason when I offered to help. He said he was not mad at me, he was mad at his parents for wanting his help when he had other things to do. Said one of the friends they were eating with could have helped them out...
(Okay you know I am a fixer) I just said, I offered to help so you wouldn't have to mess up your plans. He said he had it under control, his dad would have to have a buddy drive part way and meet them for the key so they didn't miss the movie at 8 uptown.
Well I was frustrated/guilty--I do it to myself, I always want to fix everything! So I distracted myself by playing with my new iPod and putting fun workout music on it...I hear my phone beep upstairs that I have a new message but it is 8:05 and I know they should be at movie so I figure it is my mom and ignore it.
30 min later the front door flies open. I am shocked and go upstairs and see H's truck outside?? Go look at phone, it says "Sydney asleep, coming home". Oops. H was in her room putting her to bed. Then he came out and said he was taking Nathan to go play Wii at his parents since he didn't get a movie and was pretty bummed about it...
So, tell me,
What should I be feeling guilty about? Anything? Or nothing?
1)I said I would have the kids all weekend, he wanted to do the movie thing.
2)Once the crap came up, I offered to take the keys up myself.
I tried, right?
I did say Sydney would stay awake for the movie when H asked, but the movie theater is 2 minutes from our front door, had they gone in Glenwood she would have been awake. It was b/c he drove 30 minutes that she fell asleep.
Grr. Just sucks. Now H is pissed off in general, and Nathan is bummed. And in-laws are probably wondering why selfish DIL did not come help them out and ruined their son's night with his kids...(I had a VM from FIL 5 minutes before H's Text saying 'call us when you get here so we can come out and meet you' so they still thought I was coming...)
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