Hopefullfaith, A midlife crisis a lot of times shows up in men as leaving their M, hanging out with guys half their age, a sudden concern to fit back into their levis from when they were 25, wanting to change careers. Absolutely nothing in his life is right anymore. My H actually became like a 17 year old boy, "Nobody understands... " pouting and whiny, he moved in with an 18 and 19 year olds, and slept on their couches for 5 months.

I think that he probably thinks that he wants a D, but is scared of not having a M to go back to when his A fails, and it will. You are his safety net. Dont believe anything he says right now, I dont think he understands what hes doing anymore than you do. My H has said things like he wishes someone had knocked some sense into him, or he wishes somebody had slapped him.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...