Things sound good for you, Karen. Even when things get hard, your attitude is wonderful! I hope you find the perfect place for you and your kids. I'm crossing my fingers for you!
Not much. I'm still friendly with cookie guy but he's toned down a bit. I think he picked up I wasn't interested in dating him? Not that I'm interested in dating anyone now, but even after the D, probably not. Same with theatre guy. I'm just happy right now with myself, family, and friends.
Play opens next Thursday so I'm rehearsing every day now. Walked 4 hours too! I made the mistake of calling H today! He called and wanted to meet halfway, but not only was I still working but my boss wanted me to come into the office after. H was all peeved at that; nothing new there. I was upset myself b/c of my 1 minute call with him, and lost some of my PMA, but talked myself down after a couple minutes or so---so a little progress. Next time I won't call him back though.
Still looking for a place to rent!!! Some of my theatre friends came up with rentals in our little town, but one wouldn't take pets, and the other 2 haven't called me back after I left voicemails. Will try again tomorrow!!! Hope everyone's doing good! Karen
I thought the house you wanted to rent was good. Did they not get back with you? If H can't have it his way he seems to throw a fit so don't let that get you down. How long does the musical run for? Hope you have a blast!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I filled out a credit check and told them I didn't have credit, although I realized I was on the utility bill (along with H) so I put that down. And listed my pastor as a personal reference & all. They said they might do a month-to-month lease with me then (but letting me stay the full year if I pay each time which of course I would). I dropped it off Wed. afternoon so I'm hoping they'll call back tomorrow and I'm going to keep working on finding another place just in case. First one that will let me sign a lease wins!
It last 2 weeks. A couple days (I think 2 of them)we have 2 performances in one day (matinee for kids and evening for adults). So will see how that goes. They usually do 7 performances, but are doing 10 for ours. I know they're hurting for money so maybe that's why. I'm thinking about asking my boss if I could work all the days I don't have the play 3 days the 1st week, and 4 the 2nd. I don't think I could do the performance and all the walking and they make you come early for warmups, costume, and stuff. And the 2 a days will be almost all day anyway! But I really love it, so it's worth it!!!
Yeah, he's always mad for something. Used to be mad at me I wasn't working, now b/c I am and can't do stuff all the time. So just kind of glad I don't have to deal with that.
D9 says he's still getting angry sometimes at them. One time was her last visit she forgot to wear her glasses and left them in the case at home. I usually remind her and make sure, but you know how it's been lately so didn't. She also just told me on the Tues night he takes them, he sees them an hour or so that night, then goes running the next am with friends (why doesn't he run the other 5 mornings a week he doesn't have them???) and then to work so she and S15 are bored and left alone in his apt. It seems obvious H started the 2nd night just to reduce child support.
I am curious because you mentioned that your husband use to get angry about you not working. So I am guessing here but was that a huge arguement factor while you guys were married? I know my husband used about five paragraphs in his deposition about how I wouldn't work during our marriage. Then had another question if you have the kind of education you have why not look for a really great job and utilize your education? You could have awesome benefits and everything. If your husband is planning bankruptcy it would seem it could be a positive thing for you to become more independent of him rather then counting on him financially for everything. It honestly would give you a sense of freedom on top of less worry about finances. It also could be used against you in court for not going out working when you are capable with a degree. Not trying to sound negative or anything so sorry if I am coming across that way. My lawyer had just discussed this with me about a judge frowning on that because of the times. They don't understand the importance of the stay at home mom anymore in the courts.
Though I know Karen can speak for herself but both of her kids have autism and she has been homeschooling them. Her H thinks they can just be dropped back into public school and do fine. Even with her oldest in a private school, she was still spending hours tutoring him to just keep up.
Just so you have a bit more info.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
That's right. The school for special needs kids in our area is $30,000 a year for the 2 children, and regular school didn't work out although I tried for several years but we were homeschooling and school and it was horrible. So not practical at this time.
I am working part time. BTW, H never mentioned being unhappy with me about my staying home until after he asked for a D and told me he was in love with OW. He was also 100% supportive of homeschooling until after that as well. It seems to me a lot of his decision-making at this point is centered on financial which is practical but he seems in denial of the kids. My son is severely autistic and my dd moderately. I agree if my kids weren't special needs, I would already have a full-time job.
Karen, I bet if he wasnt angry about you not working, it sounds like he would find something else to get upset about. I thought that may have been one of our issues, but H swears it wasn't.
Im surprised to hear that the school is so expensive! There is no such place in my area, the population just wouldn't support it. Do they offer any scholarships, or subsidies? Could you work there and maybe get an employee discount, it sounds silly when I say it out loud. Im sure that you have already thought of these things.
I wish that he would focus a little bit more on the kids. It is disappointing that he would waste his time with them running with his buddies when he can see the guys all the time, but has limited time with the kids.
Last edited by bluerain; 04/17/0910:34 PM.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Some of my theatre friends came up with rentals in our little town, but one wouldn't take pets, and the other 2 haven't called me back after I left voicemails. Will try again tomorrow!!! Hope everyone's doing good! Karen