I also think it is important to realize that puppy was here on a different forum trying to work on those issues, the A that his wife had was then addressed and while things may have appeared to be going along, they weren't having a marriage more like roommates sharing the bedroom but not the "benefits" that come with it.
Puppy has been very pro marriage, very anti-affair and it is sad to see it come to this. However he asking for advice and for someone that has given so much it is only right to help him as much as possible.
He is such a wonderful person and I can only wish him the best in whatever situations come his way. Now I will get off the soap box and return this thread to it's regularly scheduled programming.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory