No excuses - I could have arranged to be served by now but it hasn't been on my priority list. I have been swamped with work getting our soldiers ready to go and can't make it home in time for them to serve me. If my H really wants me served, he can have it done at work. It's going to happen one way or another.....
The heck if I know what our R is right now. We've both gone back & forth trying to make a friendship happen but it hasn't worked. Initially he wanted to "be friends" but I told him I could not do that. How you go from a newlywed to "just friends" when it isn't mutual - I don't know! But I felt convicted that it was selfish on my end to close our R entirely, so decided to try to be a friend. H deploying made it very hard for me to just cut off communication. It is difficult to cut someone out of your life that you love when life & death is an issue everyday.
We relied on & supported each other since we were both new to the Army and did the same job - so it's been very hard. I have more of a support system now and have adjusted to not having him in my day. I know now my H is in the R or friendship only for himself and will not return back what I put into it or support me the way he used to. It took me awhile to figure that out but it is finally clear.
It's been very challenging trying to cope & adjust to all the major life changes this year (new job, new to the Army, future deployment, M, looming D). I have struggled a lot adjusting to our M ending. No one ever things as a newlywed your dream will be taken away so quickly. I'm not trying to whine or make excuses - but it's just been darn difficult.
I try to look at the positives I've gained through everything and know I'm a stronger person for it all at the end of the day.
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
