I think it's great that you're getting to meet him on Monday and the getting something to eat aswell is a great step forwards- a good opportunity to show him your hot naughtiness
Good idea on letting him take more of the responsibility for the paperwork (it's house sale related stuff, right?). I have every faith in you guys having a good and calm discussion. It's usually amicable when you meet isn't it, so there's no reason why this meeting shouldn't be too!
Interesting on your H not knowing why he left. I'd imagine that the phrase 'not knowing why he left' is contextual in that if he was talking about his motivations for leaving and not knowing from a motivational point of view it could mean a lot of patience required for him to work through his reasons and identify them. However, if it was more in the context of 'our R wasn't the reason I left' that's a whole different thing. I don't know if I'm making any sense at all, so I'd better stop there, but I hope you get my drift.
