Also Puppy, regarding your wife and how she will act during the D process....if you can somehow get your wife into divorce coaching, she will be coached to "do the right thing", not to "do the best thing for yourself only". So that's another good reason to explore that option.
I missed it before, but you had said to me on your other thread, that you probably wouldn't seek counseling for death, either.
But I am sure that you are interjecting the idea that the death is of an elderly parent or aunt or uncle.
What if instead.....
You were happily married, and your wife died?
Or one of your children?
In either of these cases, can you not see the need for grief counseling for a short period of time? This is what divorce is like. Not like the death of an elderly parent. More like the death of a child or beloved spouse. At a minimum, if you were happily married and your wife died and your children were still little, wouldn't you at least get THEM some grief counseling? I'm just sayin'....
