as for the packing her remaining things last month and having her pick up her stuff.... again she got extremely angry, used colorful language, etc.

A couple weeks later, she starts acting nice to me again.

She asked me out for coffee last week, she had her parents watch the kids in the evening.

This week SHE bought me supper.

I'm not mean or angry with her ever, but I do "bust" her on her crap behavior and I don't show signs of weakness when she gets angry with me.

Something to think about.