So I think the little world W is living in is starting to crumble a little bit. She called me last night all upset that she had a rough day. She lost her cell phone and instead of talking to me about that and seeing what her options were she rushed out and bought a new one and since she wasn't on the current bill she had to get a new number under her own name and plan. Sucks some for me because I have to cancel her number under the plan we were on and probably pay the fee for early termination but I think that will be less than keeping the number on the plan deactivated. I'll have to figure that out. Either way, she is now responsible and paying for her own phone. Cool how that works out. She had a doctor's appt. yesterday that I guess didn't go well and then she had an IC appt. that she didn't like either. Up until I guess yesterday her IC had said nothing about saving the marriage. She just worked with W on figuring herself out and counseling her on seeing a mediator, what to expect in a divorce, etc... I was always a little put off by that as it seemed the counselor was helping her to get a divorce but I guess yesterday the counselor told her to try to save the marriage and was focused on that. W said she doesn't know what changed, if maybe the IC picked up on something and changed her tune. I have no idea since I've never even met her counselor. W also said she talked to IC about how I've been improving myself and growing while she is still stuck in the same place and it's not getting better. I just listened and validated it all. Hopefully W will see that maybe if she does what the IC says then she can grow and get better. Even if it's not in our R. It's like if anyone says anything to her that doesn't validate her position she shuts it out. For me, I'm gonna keep doing what I'm doing and keep following the plan to see the mediator and go from there. Unless W changes with her actions then my plan goes on as it always has. W made a comment about losing the phone (which was a really nice phone) that it was like what she is doing with our relationship. She has something good and doesn't take care of it. Ummm...didn't say a word back about that. Maybe she feels that way or maybe that was just a comment made impulsively because her day sucked...who knows. Like Puppy says...words are words it's the actions that count.
