Rob. This is just my second day on here and i just pasted my story into this forum.. suggested by another member..I read your post and it was good..and you are right.. But sometimes you dont really know exactly what it is you want, just that you do want more of something.. When you get a chance.. read my post.. then i will expand w/ you b/c its interesting to get a mans view.. Briefly..i got involved w/ sex chat online..I know.!! i know!! but it happened rather unexpectedly and soon became a problem.. BUT.. through that.. it helped me realize some of the things i did want from my husband and we have had some pretty frank discussions about it since then, that is one of the only positives to come from it i guess.. it has put me back in touch w/ that part of my brain that has felt dead for years..problem is he feels he cant "compete" w. these people on line.. i have since quit but he feels i have had an affair.. which i disagree, I told him it wasnt a competition.. i would love nothing better than to get this from him.. but he is so reserved and restrained.. he cant let go.. and i dont know how to help him.. I have been pretty explicit for the first time ever in what i want from him.. he says he cant.. and its not something "crazy" or wild.. or off color.. he tries.. but just feels like he cant..anyway.. please take the time to read my post and hope to hear back..You seem like a pretty level headed man.. so it will be good to hear from you..
