I did it!! Go me, go me, progress made. So H came by last night to pick up his W2. We talked a bit and I gotta say, H looked pretty miserable. I could tell he is doing a lot of thinking and the reality of his situation seems to be killing him, but I say that with a grain of salt until I see him do something to change the situation - don't know what he looks like when I'm not around, right? It is a process that he has to go through. I was very good in stating last to him that I have my requirements, I'm not ready to jump back into anything with him, and I have a lot to offer in any R I'm in, and I want someone who will bring more to table.
Anyway, what I'm most proud of is that as always, H makes himself fresh and tries to makeout with me (damn cake-eater!!!). Again, I kept pushing him off, and I was about to do my last number in which I go to the bedroom and lock myself in, but I said, no and stood my ground. Yippee. Funny thing is that he noticed that the last that I pushed him out. And I did again. I felt proud of myself.
He started with he's knows he's coming back home, and I told I don't want to hear it. When he takes actions and moves out from living with OW and back to his mother's place then he can talk to me. I know his living situation with OW is temporary since they are just renting a room, but he will need to make some final moves either with her or with me. And after he left, I didn't even call H when he left, which is a total 180 for me. I thought about calling him but I went right to sleep. I'm trying hard at this people.