About the temperature checks - I asked him the questions. I guess it kind of feels like asking for reassurances. I don't want to come across - or be - insecure. Although it seems that in healthy R's the partners may ask each other things about the R from time to time.
What I'm seeing is that I'm a little concrete when it comes to how to handle things in our R. This is why I've said that it seemed somewhat easier in some ways right after the bomb - then it was more clear to me what I was absolutely not to do, and what was OK. Now things aren't so clear. Tip toe, tip toe, tip toe.........
It helps me to hear some of you say that you understand my hesitancy about another baby. I don't want to seem unloving or cold, and I don't think H sees me this way. I just don't want to bring a baby into an unstable home environment. I know there are no guarantees, but I just feel like a little more water under the bridge - or a little more solid ground between us first would be good.
I also look at our two children and think they are still so small. They are still babies. I don't wnat to rush them into being more grown up than they are. Our oldest already has times when she wants to be the baby (hold me in a blanket, feed me a bottle, etc.), which I'm sure is normal, but they are so close together that she really didn't have alot of time to be the only baby......Just alot to think about.
H and I really haven't gone out - just us two yet, since he's been home. We have had some in house dates - renting a movie, and I've come home early for lunch or a walk, but not an official-get-a-babysitter-and-go-out-date. You are right - this is one of the most important things and something we never did pre-bomb. He and I have talked about this and agree it's a priority. Funds are tight right now, so we are trying to do things together that aren't expensive. He will go out of town with me to a meeting for work in January, so that's something to look forward to. The girls' night out group I go to is also planning a dinner for just parents in January, so we have some dates planned. We need to be able to get away together on a regular basis, though. Thank you for reminding me about this - it is so important.
Thank you for the kick in the pants! I am only barely getting my bedtime and morning routines done . I just feel so tired. (Had my thyroid levels checked last week - maybe that is part of the problem???) I'll continue to try, though.
I have some new undies . I've also been thinking that it's time for me to think of some 180's to try and keep things interesting.
You sound great! Hope you had a good w/e! I was thinking of you guys! Email me if you have time and let me know which email I should use!
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"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
. I just feel so tired. (Had my thyroid levels checked last week - maybe that is part of the problem???) I'll continue to try, though.
. I've also been thinking that it's time for me to think of some 180's to try and keep things interesting. 
