Women want to be wanted not NEEDED and I was all backwards on that.
You're not alone here man. Nearly all of us make this mistake for a good while. Check out this pearl of wisdom from Coach:
"Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be."
Isn't that just good stuff?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.