(((Lost))) Thank you That was such great insight into control, thank you for sharing it and it makes so much sense. And thank you for cheering my breakthrough with h, I am really proud of that! I loved your Buffy analogy, it is quite spot on. It made me think that the funny thing is that when H said he didn't know why he left that summer was a really good thing as it meant that he can't really recall the negative me. I'm hoping that at least when we no longer have joint interests he won't be able to hurt me more in that way and he won't have to be underhand.
Hey (((Ms M))) Great to see you. I'm working on that cool girl thing
H and I had an email exchange yesterday re the meeting that we are having on Monday night as there is a load of stuff I have to bring for the solicitors. I am totally letting him be the man on this one and taking the lead. I ahve had more to do with the estate agents side as I am living at the property.
I suggested we meet at my office and go through all that stuff and then go for a bite to eat afterwards which he seemed fine about. Yay, baby steps... we are going on a non-business related outing even if it is pre-cursed by business stuff. This all helps towards my friends goal and reinforces that he wants to spend social time with me again. I know it isn't huge to get excited about but I am working on my PMA and anything helps right?
So, my plan for the potentially difficult meeting about talking about splitting stuff is to just go with the flow of the form and not make a big deal about the parts that are a huge deal to me and keep things as light as possible and to LISTEN but be ready to set boundaries if I need to whilst looking hot and acting totally cool girl! I realised my first plan of action, which was to suggest getting the 'difficult stuff' over with first, would be me trying to take control of the process and highlighted my insecurites.
That was such great insight into control, thank you for sharing it and it makes so much sense. And thank you for cheering my breakthrough with h, I am really proud of that! I loved your Buffy analogy, it is quite spot on. It made me think that the funny thing is that when H said he didn't know why he left that summer was a really good thing as it meant that he can't really recall the negative me. I'm hoping that at least when we no longer have joint interests he won't be able to hurt me more in that way and he won't have to be underhand.
