I'm sure you can give him lots of valuable advice having been there/done that. I don't know what I would have done without y'alls advice and knowing you had lived this. It's just not the same coming from well meaning people who have never experienced it.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
have him sign in as trapts dad. Or Vader...vader would be cool.
LMAO!!
He wouldn't.That's not really his style. He really doesn't like to discuss it at all. I was surprised by the phone conversation we had this morning. It was good though.
IMO, his wife has always had a screw or two loose. She is 48 and going through menopause, and is now way worse than before though.
I may post a few updates about him. She has been out of the house for a year. He can't afford it any more and says he has had a enough and is moving in with my uncle. Man, I feel for him, and have wanted to talk to him for a while now. In the past he has been very short and changes the subject, so I have left it alone.
Maybe now he will talk a bit more and I can help him. We shall see. I'm going over there sometime this weekend to help him pack some of his things.
Just another reminder how important a father son relationship can be.
I can understand your use of the term excitement. For me, having to carry the weight of the house and bills on my should without her contribution is burdensome. Although I dread the thought of the kids losing the only home they've known, in some ways, I look forward to getting the gorilla off my back.
So...excitement indeed. Like many here, you may need or even want to pull back and post to others..to help them..but...we are always here for you, especially on the 'other place'.
I think that the parting shot here is that....you must get yourself to a place where you can wake up every morning and look at yourself in the mirror and know that you've done everything you could....that you stop the self-blame and victimization and grow from this. More importantly trapt, all the things you've learned here....should be like a thousand yellow Post-It Notes...plastered all over your brain...as a constant reminder for the next R that you will have in your life someday.
Strength and Honor.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Things are going well. I have been pretty busy lately which is a good thing I guess. Jimbo is back at my crib hanging out. (while I'm at work) Jimbo my house better still be standing when I get home tonight.
Nothing new to report really. Life is good. I have been getting out and having fun when I can.
I am at a point right now where I don't know what I would do if she ever woke up. It would be so difficult. I have a ton of respect for those who have made it work.
I have also been asked to go out on a date. Don't really know what to think about that now. It would be fun, but I want nothing to do with a serious relationship at this point.
I have also been asked to go out on a date. Don't really know what to think about that now. It would be fun, but I want nothing to do with a serious relationship at this point.
A date is not a serious relationship. Just let it be known in the beginning that you are not looking for anything more than hanging out and having a good time.
It isn't the woman with all the piercings now is it?
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Jimbo is back at my crib hanging out. (while I'm at work) Jimbo my house better still be standing when I get home tonight.
Did you leave him with a chore list? You know, something to keep him busy? Oh wait.......he isn't the date is he? LOL!!! Sorry, couldn't resist.
