First off...it's time you stop using the word 'failure'. Erase the word. The marriage changed....two people grew apart....someone had issues that made a long term commitment impossible....one or both CHOSE THE WRONG PERSON TO MARRY.

No SH...this is not a failure. It is a lesson in life. Whatever happened in Fall '05 was probably a wrong choice....an error. Your spouse was incapable of forgiving. This is a lesson.

Whatever happened back then...as my guru would say...you were working with 'the tools you had at the time'. There is nothing you can do to change this now. The gift you get is experience, understanding and most importantly 'clarity'.

It's a lesson in life...not a failure. Psychocybernetics will tell you that if you use words like failure...if you say I don't want to fail instead of I will succeed...that you WILL fail over time.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;