OK, just have to vent a little after what just happened... I already vented a little by myself before I came here, so it's already subdued a little.
My W and I have a MC appointment tomorrow. Since we did not agree on a time to meet to leave, I call her up tonight to see if she wants me to come pick her up or if she's coming here. She picks up and I ask how it's going and she says that she's busy making stuff for tomorrow's arts fair, where she's supposed to man a booth the whole day. So I tell her we were supposed to go see the counselor tomorrow (we waited 3 weeks for an appointment) and she says oh crap that was tomorrow? And I say yes, we talked about it and you said well, it's 3 weeks from now, but we better take it before we have to wait even longer. She says she remembers that but didn't write it in her agenda and that she didn't think it was confirmed yet and apologizes several times saying that she wouldn't have agreed to man the booth if she had known/remembered but that the lady she shares the booth with can't come tomorrow. She says that she told me that this arts fair was this weekend and I say yes you did, but to me the weekend is Sat and Sun. She says that I could still go by myself, that that could still help me, and that she could move her time to another day. To which I say while that is true, with 1.5 hrs to get there and 1.5 hrs back, we should combine that trip just from the gas cost point of view. I also said that were going to have 40min each by ourselves, then 40 min together at the end. So I say that I will cancel and ask for a new time.
So, bottomline we're not going tomorrow... I really wanted to get angry, but what would that help? I am really not an angry person, but this kind of stuff PISSES me off. We make arrangements, I move stuff around to make time and take time off from work for this and she doesn't write it down and plans something else... I do understand that at this time it's too late to rearrange stuff, but it's the poor planning that is bothering me. It's really nothing new, it's almost like I expected it. She's always been disorganized and she plans so many things and doesn't write anything down! It's not just things with me that get screwed up, her own things also get double booked sometimes. In hindsight, since I know all of this, I should have reminded her a week in advance.
Rereading all of this, reminds me of pearl's xBF. All I get is words (she said she thinks it would be good to go to MC), but no actions (like making sure you save the date).
I guess I am disappointed... I guess you could say that I set myself up for disappointment, but I was just looking forward to doing something constructive, making changes, any change, one way or another.
Anyways, I guess we'll get a new date and time and I'll make her write it down.
