WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 7

[confusedinpa]

It was an awkward evening

My wife was really in a bad mood from work and my youngest gave her a really hard time when she picked him up.

She vented for about 30 minutes while I made dinner. I listened and validated her. When dinner was ready I got us each a beer. The boys and us had a good dinner, we went out for ice cream for dessert. When I gave the boys a bath, my wife fell asleep on the couch

She woke up in time to tuck the kids in bed. She went to bed as well (8:30 ACK!)

I paid some bills. I was annoyed that she didn't pay a couple of bills from March. I just paid them and moved on

I went to the den to do some suring on the web when my wife came down at 9:15. She said she woke up and couldn't fall back to sleep. She said she was going to watch TV. I asked if she wanted to watch one of our shows. She said that would be fine

She then said there was a funny email she wanted to show me. She showed it to me and as we went to the family room I asked her about the past due bills from Mar (its very unlike her). She said she thinks she removed the auto-payment out of her account so it may have been a timing issue. Then I asked her about the check for the taxes and she said she would give it to me this weekend

We watched our shows without really chatting much. She knew I was going to see my therapist tomorrow so I asked if she was still planning on going on the following Mon so I would make the appointment later. She said she would let me know as that was the nite she had the boys.

An odd thing about tonite though was how during dinner she complained about how the music was too loud. I joke about how perhaps she's depressed. My therpist/our counselor had commented about how when I was depressed I did not want music on as it was too much input for me to deal with. She was really urked about the joke/comment and said don't even joke about that as its not funny

It was a very strong reaction.... Maybe I'll ask my therapist about it tomorrow