Dianes Roller Coaster Ride continued... lol

[Jayce]

Hi, Diane.

I hope your not responding to his saying he was pissed doesn't make him think he scared you into shutting up & all is well now & the whole issue is closed. I think its kinda a given in a guy's mind that if we know we made them mad, we're scared & will not do it again.

I know all the books, etc. say if one has LD there's nothing "wrong" with them - it is just them & they are fine that way, one only has to find a compromise. Well, OK, yeah. Howsomever, dear friends, relatives, strangers, creatures under the porch and Joe the Mailman, there is truly something wrong with a man who claims to have ND, thinks sex is totally unnecessary and evidently the root of all fights and scary things. Especially considering this is a man who prefers to work far away from his wife for months at a time and believes this is proof of his love.

I almost wonder if whatever he saw happen at home between his mother and dad, her boyfriends, etc. turned him into one of those guys who has Madonna/whore syndrome in some skewed way. You are a boy's mother, therefore shouldn't be messed with, put upon, dirtied, abused.... Wouldn't it be ironic if he really did want sex, but because he feels this way, living far apart is the only way he can be "nice" to you. If you were together all the time he'd have a problem supressing his normal desire???

Don't you just hate it when someone refuses to tell you what they think/feel? If you weren't married to that, you could just drop the friend or whatever. Not worth the aggravation, games, etc. Very childish to hold out like that. How can you change your behavior, apologize, ..? They don't want you to, cuz then they'd have no reason to be mad at you and act nasty. Bleah. Go find someone else to pick on.

Gotta go. Maybe I'll catch up w/you later tonite.
Jayce