It's one thing one minute and something else entirely. I just know that I can't keep trying to figure out what it is I did wrong to fix it because I can't fix the past. I can only use the things that he has said and the things I have been able to figure out about myself to become the best possible me I can be. I'm sick and tired of second guessing and defending myself. I can no longer do this.
WAS often waiver back and forth - they are like a pendulum. And what is worse as they find themselves drawn to you, they are at the same time repulsed because they had made the decision to walk, so being drawn to you is admitting they are wrong. You just have to hope that over time the pendulum swing gets less violent and settles (it will) and it may settle with your M restored.
Originally Posted By: goingtofixME
I wanted to get some validation from my H.
Please, for your own sake, stop this. I know (really know) this is hard - you want your H to see your changes, you want to grab him and say "look, I am changing for you, cant you see this!" - unfortunately this only makes the changes harder to accept, as they assume you will slip back away as soon as they stop fighting
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