Thanks for the reply antlers i have been reading alot of what you have had to say to many others and am happy to hear you chime in on my behalf. I have committed myself to DB and the advice of sheryl and to the people on this board i am really just struggling the most because i have been 400miles away from her for 10months and we only have 2 months untill she would be back at home. I have asked on 2 occassions if there is another man and both times she assured me there was not she told me the last time that she thinks it is easier to try to put the blame on another person than to blame ourselves, but either way the blame is soley on us. I will not contact her untill she contacts me and untill, and when she does i will try to pull away as far as i can and act as if i accept this tragedy. My dogs have a vet appt. on 5/5 she told me that she wanted to pay becuase those are her boys and she wants to take care of them. I really dont know how to respond to this. Since her main complaint is that she is like my mother and is always taking care of me and i am now trying to show her that i dont want a mother i already have one i want my hilarious,beatiful,caring,intelligent,loving wife back. Either way this will not be an easy battle as she is as hard headed as she is beautiful but, i am more stubburn and hard headed than she and if there is a chance i will prevail. And if she is truly done than i will only come out a stronger person.
