Yeah, don't make the same mistakes that many of us did. Don't cry in front of her, don't beg, don't plead, don't try to reason, don't try to use guilt...DON"T DO ANY OF THESE THINGS. Your heart will tell you to...but DON"T.
I already did all of that. I cried. I begged. I offered great things if we stayed together. I guilted over the kids. I realize now how much I blew it.
What is tricky is that she says I never loved her. That I just don't want to be divorced. I worry about acting non-chalant in that it will feed into her belief that I never loved her anyway and give her confidence that she is going down the right road.
Also, I have to admit there is some part of me going crazy over the thought of another guy.
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Know this...a big chunk of divorce papers that are served are NEVER finalized!
I'd really love to know what percent of people who use these techniques after geting served pull it off. I imagine that doesn't exist.
Anyway thanks for the advice. I like to think I'm a relatively smart guy. Evidently, I'm clueless.
Then join the club! You didn't blow it. Just don't do it anymore.
She tries to convince herself of that to justify what she is doing! She knows you love her. Don't believe anything she says right now.
Deal with 'what is'...don't add to your burden by fretting over 'what isn't'!
I don't know what the % is...I just know that it happens, and that there are certain things we can do that will increase the liklihood of that happening.
You're here...and it's a good place to be. Read, study, learn, and talk to other folks here.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
