The rush of emotions during this time can be un-nerving, things that seemed second nature before now all seem to need weighed and measured for the best outcome.
Probably the evening out has occurred. Hope he came home at a reasonable hour and saved you that agnoizing.
As for your d, I like what holdingon said, ignore the behavior. It is probably typical for her to continue to seek reassurance that daddy is around and wants to help her. If she is in her pissy mood and wants him, continue with your act if, Okay, here's Daddy to help you and then go do something on your own. Back when H and I were happy--we always called it the PP--preferred parent, one of us would be one day and the other the next. Never bothered me then, as I was secure in our family situation. So maybe she is making up for all those days when she didn't get to choose who her PP would be, it was always you. Can you find something small to do with the time that H is busy with the child rearing stuff. It isn't easy, I know, but all the wise ones who have gone before us say they will eventually come around and feel secure again.
