Thanks for the inspiring words antlers. I appreciate them immensely. I'm trying so hard. I'm still new at all of this and am still finding it extremely confusing. I've read the book and to be honest I really feel as if I need someone to walk me through this. I want to change me. I want to a better me. I am just finding it difficult to figure out what I need to do. I am not getting the whole 180 thing. I don't know for sure what acting as if is. Am I supposed to just leave him be and not talk to him period? Please help me.
People here can walk you through this. If he wants no communication, then give him no communication. He's "in the fog". He doesn't know what he wants right now...except that, right now, he doesn't want to be involved in this relationship. You can't believe anything they say when they are at this stage. Go to work on yourself...like people talk about here. Don't bother trying to change his mind. He'll have to change it himself. Become the best 'you' that you can. This is hard stuff...just know that many of us here understand what you are feeling and going through.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
