Now Kerry, I read your comments and some of the other men here and feel sooooo stupid. H has never paid for any of my handbags (nor shoes). I used to buy him clothes and shoes and everything else. I never used his credit cards, he had one issued on my name connected to his account) which I handed to him when it was delivered because "I didnt need it". The only expenses he covered were the nanny, our vacation and any big expenses for the house (not many of those since we got everything new when we got married). Note: he was making more than double that I did when we separated. Now he is making more than triple.
I always worked full time and missed a lot of career opportunities because I chose to be the one that would put her ambitions behind for our family
Also, I did want sex with him often and was very attracted to him and told him I was
Wanted to spend time with him and almost never went out on my own except for my 1 hour coffee after work (afternoon) with my GFs once every two weeks while he was at work anyway, that he knew about and were all girlfriends, married and he had an open invitation to come to (he never did but my gf's Hs did some times)
Had no secrets, private life, my cell was always available etc etc
Never had any ideas about spending money etc, I was the one putting money aside in saving accounts for possible future investments (which he kept because as he said the money was coming out from his salaries and I never requested part of those)
Treated his family the best way I could. His father used to say he had 2 daughters.
Treated his few friends nicely and they all used to like me and "envy" him for finding me
I never got to be looking very bad. I gained some weight but I was always 5-6 kilos below my height (10 kilos below the height is supposed to be the perfect analogy)Last year I went 18 below my height
Never allowed my family to have a saying in our life although we are living in the same building. I am mentioning it because it took a toll on my R with my parents for a while until the boundaries were clear while I spend an incredible amount of time taking care of his dad after his mom died. He was in my home EVERY day for 18 months, I would find him here when I would return from work.
He was free to go wherever he wanted, I was not jealous, travelled a lot, worked late etc etc
I am a good cook and my house is kept very tidy and clean and organised (when I decided I was too tired to do it, I hired a lady to help us out and I paid for her)
Of course, my bad habits have also all been listed before here in detail but still, I feel so stupid thinking I was being too nice to him all these years.And most men I see that are crazy for their wives, they are treated..., lets say not so well, IMO. Recent example, my SiL.
