The adventure continues--part 3

[AFWAW]

My W actually believes that the kids will respect her for abandoning the family!

I don't know if my wife would go that far but it sure is funny ironic how my wife has had to change based on the sitch. Before, she had my paycheck to spend as well and she ate out a lot. Now, she has to cook at home and I was talking to her the other night and heard her clanging pans and asked what she was cooking. She said spaghetti--this cracked me up because she always complained about spaghetti when I cooked it because she doesn't like it. She quickly said, I don't like it but it sure is easy to make(ya think?) The old me would have rubbed her nose in it(you know, the I told you so type of attitude). I just listened. I've learned so much from just listening. I really wish I could go back in time and change some of my behaviors earlier. So far, I have not enabled her to argue with me since this sitch. I have listened and validated and when appropriate, I have shown affection. I have not judged her(at least to her face or through words). I have maintained control of my body language. Additionally, the small things that used to bother me before no longer do. Lots of changes that hopefully the wife has taken note of when around.